Word’s After Death! Saying it today
By Daniel Neriah

To my family already past and to those yet to go, these words I share openly that was always there, unspoken, waiting, needing to be heard.

Missed Dreams? Are they the things we wish for in our lives, the ones we will always be wishing for? The things we try to do, that we will always be trying to do and never acted upon. Where our needs will always be our needs and our wants will always be our wants in wanting more. Are they the things we have missed in our lives that can never be replaced. To where they’ve gone to become a Wish or Dream to what could have been; for the rest of our lives. By Daniel Russell

This is dedicated to my Mom and to all Mother’s

Dear Mom;

On the journey of life one is born to die, is what we believe and come to accept? What one does in between that stage is to live, live well a life will allow, we were told and also believed. How one lives it, is another thing all together. In preparation to that moment of leaving, these words are now; being spoken to you…my dear Mother, please hear my unspoken words before your passing, while you pack.

In silence and expectation of what is to come, I share with you my thoughts, saying it today…NOW. Once I had the experience of visiting the passing of another family member. When I was asked to say a few words, there was none available to them, but a question came in stead when I listened to another in speaking. That question was and is, why do we the living always have something to say when one leaves our company, but not while they are here with us or in front of us?

There are two possibilities for that; one, this would be the most time we would have to share a quit moment together. Two, we were all afraid of the response of the unexpected; therefore it was always unsaid. Furthermore we do not want this to happen, we do not want them to leave, but when it does we just accept it with grace and move on, sometimes very slowly. The attending listening guests they’re also there and looking to hear all the things about you that were never said or spoken about before. Let’s talk about the good things that are expected to be heard, and what has become a common place at ones passing, but what is good my Mother? Are they the things you gave and taught us or those things we took from that which you shared with us?

First I want thank you for being in my life for the moments you’re and will continue to be even in pasting, or to where I gotten to know you some what. I did not spend much time with you in person and it seems the same will continue from here on. Another good thing for me and for others, and those to whom I cannot speak for, we got to know you and received a gift of you being among us that we will all carry with us in memory.

That gift Mother I hope we will learn from…that gift of how we can be kind to others, have a kind words for others, enjoy and appreciate life to the fullest and the simplest, to be gentle and that list would make the library of life over flow…that is your good my Mother. “If you did not know it, you do now”
What friends will want to say and did not, that you’re a great friend, not was, like to give of your help in helping others. Do not complain; do not talk about others, and that list too would over flow the book of giving of one self to aid others. “If you did not know it, you do now”.

To all your children and grand babies endless love unseen, through their closed eyes yet to be opened. You are also not of many words, but your presents speaks loudly of them all, just by being there when they called upon you. It also seems Mother dear that we were able to speak lots lately than when I us growing up without knowing you? “If you did not know it, you do now”.
The giving of wise words of wisdom in a Mothers tail seem's to be missed from your children's action and results to date, but they are being heard behind the invisible actions by them.
“If you did not know it, you do now”.

Your tears you shed in silence for your children that is not shared in public, is known and understood that they’re being taken place, through your wandering in silence.
Your endless worry and wishes for their safety while they are away from you…we do know you care; your children loves you for it. “If you did not know it, you do now”.

You will be leaving on a long term paradise vacation to be on disturbed, and I want to let you to know this, so you can hear me in your passing.
I know you will always be apart of me all the rest of my life, that I have left to enjoy your company. Your smile and laughter, your support of encouragement, your words of caution, your wish for us to do well and be good and most of all your love that is always unspoken.
We live among each other without saying, because we just know of the unspoken words are always saying you’re loved, appreciated, honoured and missed in time yet to come. “If you did not know it, you do now”.

The greatest honour a child can share with his or her Mother is in the understanding of her NEVER ending presents in their lives. All they ever need to do is look about them and Mother is always present through her reflection in creation…for it is so and so is she, has it is and always will be here to support us in your absence has you have always have without us knowing. “If you did not know it, you do now”.

In a recent conversation with you, you were asked are you packing; an answer was given…….yes, and a comment followed that states “and I have not lived yet”. Making a mark through a statement we all should just live, continuing to sharing words of wisdom for others to follow. “Stating you are always sharing”
A child’s love can never be explained or understood only by a Mothers life shared without an end.
A love never spoken is a love not shared or need to be, for it is, just is.

Peace be on your Journey Mother Dear; A Son unspoken love, that is understood.
Daniel Neriah
Barrie /Dec.2008